Have you seen Good Luck to You, Leo Grande? There's a really good example of an apology in there, along with some other good stuff.
Separately, for the reflexive apologies where no one was hurt, I've really liked the suggestion to switch to "Thank you." Instead of "Sorry I'm late," "Thank you for waiting for me." Instead of "Sorry to blather on," "Thank you for listening to me." I think it can really change the dynamic.
I’ve not, but I read a piece on it and was really interested (Emma Thompson is a treasure)!
I’ve heard the replacing I’m sorry with Thank you thing too! It’s tough to implement, but I may try it. An earlier draft of this essay contained a whole thing about how AMAB folks are generally socialized not to apologize at all, where AFAB folks are constantly apologizing for existing, but it got outside the scope of this. Another essay, perhaps!
Have you seen Good Luck to You, Leo Grande? There's a really good example of an apology in there, along with some other good stuff.
Separately, for the reflexive apologies where no one was hurt, I've really liked the suggestion to switch to "Thank you." Instead of "Sorry I'm late," "Thank you for waiting for me." Instead of "Sorry to blather on," "Thank you for listening to me." I think it can really change the dynamic.
I’ve not, but I read a piece on it and was really interested (Emma Thompson is a treasure)!
I’ve heard the replacing I’m sorry with Thank you thing too! It’s tough to implement, but I may try it. An earlier draft of this essay contained a whole thing about how AMAB folks are generally socialized not to apologize at all, where AFAB folks are constantly apologizing for existing, but it got outside the scope of this. Another essay, perhaps!