I guess I worry less about what other people are doing and more about simply what makes me happy. About a decade ago I banished the word "should" from my vocabulary as part of a practice of recognizing that I want to have the things done and therefore I want and choose to do them, or I figure out a different plan.
I love to cook, so I do a lot of that and when it got to be too much for me during the pandemic I said "I don't cook more than three times in a row" and we started getting takeout and my husband started cooking more, which makes him happy, too. I love to tidy, so I do a fair amount of that, but I don't love to clean, so we pay people to do that. I also do a lot of laundry. But I do a lot of other things, too, and each of them are personally meaningful to me, so in the end I think I'm winning.
I guess I worry less about what other people are doing and more about simply what makes me happy. About a decade ago I banished the word "should" from my vocabulary as part of a practice of recognizing that I want to have the things done and therefore I want and choose to do them, or I figure out a different plan.
I love to cook, so I do a lot of that and when it got to be too much for me during the pandemic I said "I don't cook more than three times in a row" and we started getting takeout and my husband started cooking more, which makes him happy, too. I love to tidy, so I do a fair amount of that, but I don't love to clean, so we pay people to do that. I also do a lot of laundry. But I do a lot of other things, too, and each of them are personally meaningful to me, so in the end I think I'm winning.